Why is it not advisable to have rural parents help raise children?

Many people born in the 1990s have reached the age of having children, and this generation grew up under a bombardment of internet information. Although many have become parents, they are not truly prepared, so many simply have children without raising them.

Some do it because they want to live as a couple without children disturbing them; some are afraid of trouble; some couples have no choice but to hand their children over to their parents to raise in order to reduce the burden.

Many young parents who came out of rural areas send their children back to their rural hometowns to be fostered, and this practice is inappropriate. There will be all kinds of hidden risks, so caution is still needed.

Living conditions in rural areas are relatively poor, and medical conditions are not well developed either.

Quite apart from anything else, rural sanitary conditions cannot keep up, and children are very easily influenced by the outside world as they grow up. Failing to develop good hygiene habits greatly affects later life.

Furthermore, rural people do not attach enough importance to illness, and since the parents are older, once a child gets sick and cannot receive timely medical treatment, serious consequences can very easily result.

The phenomenon of grandparents doting on grandchildren is obvious in rural areas.

Everyone says grandparents dote on grandchildren, and in rural areas this is even more so. Placing a child with grandpa and grandma is simply like making them a little emperor or little princess. Children are young and cannot judge, and the snacks in small rural shops have no quality guarantee but are very appealing to children.

Usually, as long as the child wants to eat something, the grandparents will not refuse. They will not think about whether the snack is healthy. They always give in to the child. And this makes the child develop a false impression: that the whole world belongs to them, and that whatever they want will naturally be bought for them. It fosters an indulgent and willful personality.

It easily creates a psychological gap and estrangement from the parents.

When the child reaches school age, many people bring the child back to raise by their side. For the child, this is like being reborn and requires adapting to a new environment.

There is an old rural saying: you can tell what a person will be like at three. In fact, a child's personality is already mostly formed before starting school, and once the child is brought back, trying to correct the child's bad habits will produce the opposite effect. The child will feel that life with the parents is not free and will instead become estranged from their biological parents.

The editor still advocates that your own child should be raised by yourself. A newborn child is a blank sheet of paper, and a large part of the child's future is determined by family education. Moreover, most grandparents in rural areas are already advanced in age, and caring for a child is very hard work for them.