Why do people who love each other break up? This is a difficult question that many people search for an answer to in vain.

The vows of eternal love still ring in their ears, the promise of holding hands as husband and wife seems like only yesterday, so how did everything change in the blink of an eye?

Taylor Myers, a 25-year-old poet, wrote a few passages on the social media platform Tumblr, openly revealing her fear of love, and it was precisely these few short passages that struck a chord in the hearts of millions, receiving 1.48 million likes, shares and comments.

Her post, raw, fearful and full of regret, touched many people who had experienced the shocking contrasts between the intense, burning adoration of young love, and the cold ashes of realism that remain once the fire has faded.

Her post was free of embellishment, filled with fear and regret, and touched many people's hearts. These people had all experienced the stark contrast between two kinds of feelings - the intense, burning affection of young love, and the cold ashes of reality once the passionate flame of love burns out.

Let's take a look at her exact words:

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals.

Many people ask me what my greatest fear is, or what scares me the most. I know they expect answers like a fear of heights, enclosed spaces, or people dressed up as animals.

But how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it.

But how do I tell them that when I was 17, I took a "life and relationships" class and discovered that the reasons most people stop loving someone are exactly the same as the reasons they fell in love in the first place.

That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain.

The stubbornness they once found endearing in their partner has now become unwillingness to compromise; the single-minded tenacity they once had has now become a sign of immaturity; the bad habits that once charmed you have now become money-burning affairs.

Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.

Their true nature has become recklessness and irresponsibility; the way they put their feet up on the dashboard is no longer sexy and charming, it's just another annoying thing in your busy life.

Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

To the person who once thought all the brilliant stars in the world were in my eyes, I may become unbearably ugly, and nothing saddens and frightens me more than the thought of this.

After this article was published, it resonated widely among netizens.

Taylor had no idea her article would go viral, and afterwards she wrote another article to further share the relationship lessons she had learned and her views on love and marriage.

She had no idea the post would take off this much, so she wrote a follow-up post to clarify a few things about the class and the love lessons she learned.

She had no idea this post would be so popular, so she wrote another article to explain a bit about the class and the love lessons she had learned.

Compared with the previous post, she shared her views from a different angle, and once again struck a chord in the hearts of a large number of netizens!

What exactly is love? Is it a feeling, or a choice? Let's hear what Taylor has to say.

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I"ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

I never thought this would become the most popular of the hundreds of poems I've written. When I wrote that article, I was in extreme pain and sorrow, and I overlooked the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, "is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?" We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling.

After the teacher introduced this theory to us, she asked: "Is love a feeling? Or a choice?" We group of teenagers naturally answered that it was a feeling.

She said that if we clung to that belief, we"d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She said that if we held on to this belief, we would never be able to have any kind of lasting relationship.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

She had us interview some adults who had been married or were in a marriage, asking them about their marital situation, why it lasted or why it ended in failure. In the end, I asked every one of them: is love an emotion or a choice?

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing.

Everyone said love is a choice. Love is a conscious commitment, something you choose to keep sustaining with one person day after day, and that person chooses to do the same.

They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren"t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

They all said that at some point in their marriage, this "feeling of love" disappeared or faded, and they no longer felt happy. They said feelings are always changing, and on such shaky foundations you cannot build anything lasting.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

Those still together said that when things go wrong, they choose to communicate, to figure out exactly what the problem is and how to fix it. They choose to recreate something worth both sides investing their feelings in.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Those who divorced said they chose to leave.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful.

Since taking that class, I see relationships completely differently. I also understand why arranged marriages can succeed.

I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I"ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I"ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I discovered the difference between feelings and commitment. I never actively approached those who stirred my heart or gave me trouble. I chose those who promised to choose me, who were willing to seriously look for something to like even on the worst days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

I am no longer afraid that one day those who say I am their entire universe will no longer see stars in my eyes, because as long as they still choose to keep looking, one day the stars will appear again.

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