Please be kind to your husband. Many wives cry after reading this.
If you are married and you are a woman, you should read this even more carefully, because I know you must love him deeply.
If you are not married, whether you are a man or a woman, this article is worth keeping, because it contains many of life's truths!
There is a phenomenon: among elderly people, men pass away many years earlier than women. In our later years, no matter how old we are, and no matter what our physical condition is like, as long as your husband is always by your side, even if you live to eighty, to ninety, to one hundred, you will not feel desolate and lonely.
Even in old age, with husband and wife together, watching TV, reading the newspaper, listening to the radio during the day, traveling together, visiting good friends' homes for tea and conversation, walking together in the garden and on the lawn, that happiness, that contentment, is in fact something that no number of children can replace. It is also something no one else can replace.
What's more, people nowadays can mostly only have one child, right?
According to most people's understanding, men are stronger than women, and women, having given birth and raised children, surely are not as physically strong as men.
But why is it that among many elderly people, it is mostly the husband who leaves the old wife behind and goes first?
In fact, men are not as strong as women think. Their strength comes from the fact that they quietly endure all the humiliation, loss, defeat, illness, depression, life's pressures and the heaviness of life they encounter, keeping it all hidden in their hearts, unwilling to speak it out, unwilling to show it.
And all these emotions endured in the heart are, in fact, like one "computer virus" after another accumulating until the end, and the result is a crash, a system freeze.
Why do men drink heavily? Why do they smoke? Why do they brood? The deeper reason is, in fact, that too many viruses have already accumulated in their minds. Simply because he is a man, he cannot easily shed tears, and even less can he easily pour out his troubles to others.
He must put on the image of a tough guy in front of his wife, his children and his parents. Women, however, are used to pouring out even the slightest grievance to their husbands, their parents, their sisters and their close friends, so women's viruses do not accumulate. She cleans herself out completely with every outpouring and every tear. And for humans, almost all diseases have their deeper cause in pent-up feelings.
Therefore, women who love to vent their emotions tend to live longer. Men, however, leave this world earlier than their wives.
How can you help your husband live as long as possible and stay with you into old age as much as possible? Start from now, act immediately! So, what should you set about doing?
One: when your husband comes home, create as warm and relaxed an environment for him as possible. In fact, if no important guests are visiting, why must the floor be mopped spotless? Why must the clothes be washed right then? Why must the time that should be for resting and relaxing at home be made tense and hurried for both of you? And when a couple bickers, it is mostly over housework.
Two: when your husband is unhappy outside, even if he does not say so, you should try your best to sense it. At the same time, care for him with love, make him a dish to go with drinks, pour him a glass, tell some humorous jokes, first divert his unhappiness, and then gradually ask about it.
If he does not want to tell you, or even does not want to bring it up, you must not keep probing. He must have suffered a deep inner wound, and at such times, a man is used to licking his own wounds. What you can do is one word: love! Consideration! Gentleness! This may not necessarily resolve his inner pent-up feelings and wounds, but it will certainly act as a painkiller and an anti-inflammatory.
If he is willing to talk, then no matter what he says, you must not complain about him at this time. What you can do is guide him and help channel his negative emotions elsewhere.
In fact, all his unhappiness, plainly speaking, will never go beyond the scope of the two words "fame and profit." Then there is getting into disputes with people and being reprimanded by superiors.
If what you care about most is your husband's health, and your husband being able to stay with you into old age, then you should not care most about your husband's fame and profit. What is destined will come in time; what is not, no matter how hard you struggle for it, will not come. What is forcibly gained will also be lost. If you do not lose it in this respect, you will surely lose it in another. This is an ironclad rule. If you stop caring about it, your husband will live very relaxed. And this very relaxation will, precisely, bring you many pleasant surprises!
Three: alcohol must not be excessive. Those who play the hero at drinking gatherings, in fact, are praised to their face by everyone, but the moment they turn away, everyone takes them for fools. As for smoking, if it truly cannot be quit, then as far as possible do not smoke inferior cigarettes, but you must persuade him to smoke less.
Four: if you must live with your elderly mother-in-law, and there is no condition for living separately from a mother-in-law who is not yet elderly, then you must accept reality and try your best to get along well with your mother-in-law. If you cannot tolerate your husband's mother, your conflicts, every battle between you, will surely shorten your husband's life by months, a year, or even several years. Conversely, if he quarrels with your mother every day and is at odds with her, what would you do? Suppressed, helpless, and caught in the middle, you would certainly have your life shortened in the same way.
This cannot be left to his whims. Make more vegetable dishes and cold dressed dishes. Coax him into eating them the way you would coax a child. After he eats these light vegetable dishes, he will also discover that the inexplicable dizziness, listlessness, drowsiness and other indescribable poor states he used to have after always eating greasy, deep-fried foods will suddenly improve. If you want your husband to stay with you into old age, you should also get your husband to take part in aerobic activities as much as possible.
Running, brisk walking, ball games, traveling, mountain climbing, shadow boxing, or even if conditions do not allow, moving your muscles and bones indoors, rolling around a few times on the floor, all can serve the purpose of exercise just the same.
If you want your husband to stay with you to the end of your life, you must care for him the way you care for a child. As long as you truly love him as a person, without too many added conditions, you will surely be willing to give it a try.
If you do this, you will find that he will live very happily, live very passionately, live with a great sense of achievement, live very healthily, and he will certainly repay you.
That will be something you never expected. Even if he is very ordinary, he certainly truly loves you, and he certainly will not go first. He will stay with you all along, living for a very, very long time, staying with you to the end of your life.
Friends, when we grow old with white hair, when we grow old with aching legs and feet, when we grow old with bent backs, as long as your husband is by your side, you will know that tens of millions in assets are not as good as a husband who has accompanied you for a lifetime bringing you a cup of hot tea and counting out a few pills. When we grow old with faces full of wrinkles, no amount of expensive formal wear and cosmetics can compare with your husband gently holding your arm as you walk together through the grass in the setting sun.
When we are so old that we can only rock and be pushed in a rocking chair or even a wheelchair, you will realize that no mansion, authority or fame can compare with your husband turning on the electric blanket for you and saying a word of care when the weather changes in the middle of the night.
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