Cultivate small habits that will serve you for a lifetime, and let good habits shape a better you
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We cultivate habits, and habits shape us.
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Be grateful
Be grateful
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes.
Slow yourself down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in life: the pale purple flowers on the sidewalk, a beautiful sunset, a shower that washes away the fatigue of your day, the smile in your partner's eyes.
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
When your gratitude can appreciate the beauty of life, think and bless, you will naturally be full of happiness.
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Choose your friends wisely
Choose your friends wisely
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships.
According to Harvard, the most important external factor affecting personal happiness is interpersonal relationships.
So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
So if you want to be happy, choose to be with optimistic friends; they can appreciate the real you and make your life richer, happier and more meaningful.
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Cultivate compassion
Cultivate compassion
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.
When we put ourselves in others' shoes and look at problems from another angle, we can handle problems more compassionately, objectively and effectively. There will be fewer conflicts and more happiness in life.
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Keep learning
Keep learning
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
Learning keeps us young, and dreams make us full of vitality. When we use our brains and get to work, we think less about unhappy things, and we become happier and more content.
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Become a problem solver
Learn to solve problems
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state.Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution.
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter challenges in life, they do not torment themselves and then become very depressed. They face the challenge directly and mobilize all their strength to find a solution.
By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.The result? You’ll have more happiness in your life.
By becoming a problem solver, you will build your self-confidence, your determination to do the things you want, and your ability to face challenges directly. The result is that you will have more happiness in life.
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Do what you love
Do what you want to do
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. It’s one of life’s greatest blessings to find a line of work that we’re deeply passionate about and that utilizes our greatest gifts.If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.
Since we spend one third of our adult lives working, doing what we want to do has a great impact on our overall happiness. Doing the work you love most and maximizing your talents is one of the greatest happinesses in life. If you cannot do what you want to do right now, then try to find happiness and meaning in your current job, or cultivate an interest you love.
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Live in the present
Live in the present
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.
You feel frustrated because you live in the past. You feel worried and anxious because you live in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you are living in the present.
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Laugh often
Laugh often
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
Laughter is the most powerful thing against anger or frustration. Research shows that simply turning up the corners of your mouth can also increase your happiness. Do not take life too seriously. Learn to find humor and laughter in the daily struggle.
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Practice forgiveness
Learn to forgive
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself.And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.
Hatred and anger are punishments against yourself. When you let go, you are in fact showing kindness to yourself. Most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Only through our mistakes do we gradually learn how to become a stronger, better person.
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Say thanks often
Say thank you often
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.
Learn to appreciate the blessings in life. It is equally important to express your appreciation to those who make your life better, whether in big ways or small.
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Create deeper connections
Learn to form deep connections
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.
Our happiness keeps surging through interactions with another person. Focused listening is one of the two most important aspects of strengthening this bond and bringing happiness to yourself and others.
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Keep your agreement
Keep promises
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do.
Our self-esteem is built on keeping promises to ourselves. High self-esteem and happiness are directly related. So keep your promises to yourself and to others. Always do what you say.
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Meditate
Meditation
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group.Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
On average, people who have had 8 sessions of meditation training are 20% happier than control freaks. Such training can lead to changes in brain structure, including the density of the black matter in the hippocampus, which is important for learning and memory, and structurally related to self-awareness, compassion and reflection.
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Focus on what you’re doing
Focus on what you are doing
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.”When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!
When you devote yourself wholeheartedly to one thing, you will be in a happy state. When we are in this state, you care less about what others think of you and are less disturbed by unimportant things. The result? More happiness.
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Be optimistic
Be optimistic
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge,then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.
For happy people, the glass of water is always half full. Whenever you face a challenge, if you tend to imagine the worst, then shift yourself out of that state. Tell yourself the good in a situation or what you have learned from it. Optimism can certainly drive success and happiness.
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Love unconditionally
Unconditional love
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems.
No one is perfect. Accept all your imperfections. Treat others the same way. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean you have to spend all your time with them, or help them solve their problems.
Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.
Unconditional love means accepting them as they truly are, letting them explore at their own pace.
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Don’t give up.
Do not give up
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something,see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.
Unfinished plans and constant failure will inevitably weaken your self-esteem. If you decide to do something, finish it. Do not give up before you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary, but defeat is permanent. Only when you give up are you truly defeated.
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Do your best and then let go
Be your best self, then let go
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.
Everyone has limitations. And sometimes, even though we work very hard at something, things still go against our wishes. So be your best self, then let go. When you have done your best, you have no regrets.
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Take care of yourself
Take good care of yourself
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try.
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If your health is poor, no matter how hard you try, it is hard to be happy. Make sure you eat well, exercise, and find time to rest.
So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.
Take good care of your body, brain and spirit.
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Give back
Learn to give
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards.
Doing good deeds is one of the best ways to ensure you are in a good mood. According to Harvard, when people do good deeds, their brains become active, just like the stimulation the brain receives when you experience other rewards.
So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.
So, people who care about others are happier than those who care less about others.
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