Words from the heart of a depression sufferer: Please don't say these things to me, my heart is very fragile

I think many family members or friends of people with depression sometimes say such things without thinking, and these are things a person with depression cannot bear, so we should try our best to avoid these words and find the right way to ease things, which is what matters most. If this goes on for a long time and you carelessly hurt someone with depression, it will make their condition even more serious.

The 1st thing you must not say: Tomorrow will be better

In fact, putting so much pressure on a patient who has already been struggling alone in the dark for a long time and has been searching for a way out is unfair.

At this point, we should say: Dear, take it one step at a time, slowly, don't rush, I will always be by your side!

The 2nd thing you must not say: You need to try to face it

For many people with depression, the only way to deal with depression is to face it alone every day. Saying this over and over makes them feel they are not good enough.

At this point, we should say: You are not fighting alone, I am here!

The 3rd thing you must not say: I know how you feel, I have been depressed too

In fact, no one can truly feel exactly what a person with depression feels. Saying this will make them feel you are belittling them, will make them feel even more useless, and will also make the suicidal thoughts of people with depression even stronger.

At this point, we should say: Dear, we must remember that depression is far more terrible than a bad day or a bad thought.

The 4th thing you must not say: You are being too selfish

Depression is not an option, it is not something they chose. A person with depression is already filled with endless fear inside, and if we blame them at this point, aren't we pushing them into the fire?

At this point, we should say: I really miss you, is there anything I can do?

The 5th thing you must not say: You are making me feel bad too

To repeat: depression is not something they chose. Fighting depression has already made them very helpless, and what they want is your genuine worry and care.

At this point, we should say: I really don't want to see you so down, let me do something for you!

The 6th thing you must not say: Stop feeling sorry for yourself

At this point, what we need to do is put ourselves in their shoes: feeling sorry for oneself and resisting depression are very different things, even though sometimes they look like they are going hand in hand.

At this point, we should say: I can see you are struggling, and that makes me sad too. What can I do for you?

The 7th thing you must not say: Just go out for a run and you will be fine

Exercise is indeed very useful for us normal people to release emotions. But do you know? For people with depression, even getting out of bed is very difficult.

At this point, we should say: I need a buddy to go for a walk with, come with me!

The 8th thing you must not say: Everyone is dealing with all kinds of problems, why can't you

Depression is not something we choose, and once it happens, it makes people different from one another.

At this point, we should say: You seem to be having a hard time lately, you should know I am always here, talk to me about whatever is upsetting you.

The 9th thing you must not say: You are strong, you will be fine

People with depression generally do not let others see them as weak and helpless; they will always face all the suppression alone by themselves.

At this point, we should say: I believe in you, I believe you will get through it. I am here to accompany you through every difficulty.

The 10th thing you must not say: You just need to get out and get some fresh air

Again, for people with depression, leaving the house is not simple, and even if they do it, it is not a very good solution.

At this point, we should say: I don't want you to feel you are alone, maybe I can come to your place, or we can go somewhere else together, okay? Dear.

I hope not only family and friends, but also more people in society will have a caring heart, and help people with depression step out of that dark world as soon as possible~