When talking about marriage, after the meal my boyfriend paid the bill and came back, my mother slapped me and then cried herself

Talking about marriage with my boyfriend, after the meal my boyfriend paid the bill and came back, my mother slapped me and then cried herself

Perhaps until I become a mother myself, I will never know how much importance a mother places on her daughter's marriage. If the daughter chooses a marriage that the parents see as unsatisfactory, how sad she will be to see her child treated unfairly, and how disappointed she will be in her daughter. I am exactly such a daughter. After that incident happened, I was truly heartbroken. I hurt my mother's heart, and I myself was also very sad and heartbroken.

Since childhood I grew up in a divorced family. My father abandoned us, mother and daughter, very early on. It could be said that I never felt a father's love, and I cannot even remember what my father looked like. It was my mother who raised me all by herself, which was extremely hard. My mother loved me very much. She often said she wanted to love me a little more, to make up for the love that my father should have given me as well. It could be said that I was my mother's only emotional support. Later I got a boyfriend. After we confirmed our romantic relationship, I only then learned that he already had a family. But he really treated me very well, and I could not bear to give him up either. He told me that he and his wife at that time had no feelings for each other, and that he would divorce her very soon.

At first I thought he was just brushing me off, so I held onto the mindset of waiting a while, and I also never dared to mention this matter to my mother. Unexpectedly, my boyfriend really did get divorced later, and he proposed that we get married. When it came time to discuss marriage, we arranged for the parents of both families to have a meal together and meet. As it turned out, at the dinner table my boyfriend's mother showed in her words that she was very dissatisfied with me. She even compared me with my boyfriend's ex-wife, saying how I was inferior to her in this and that way. My mother was sitting beside me at the time, and I saw that her expression was very ugly, and I also felt very uncomfortable. Later my boyfriend went to pay the bill. My mother saw how I was fawning over my boyfriend's mother in every way and was very angry. When my boyfriend came back after paying the bill, my mother asked me in front of everyone whether I absolutely had to marry my boyfriend. At that moment I hesitated for a bit, but after looking at my boyfriend and his mother, I still nodded. My mother was so angry that she gave me a slap, and then she cried herself, saying I had disappointed her too much.

This was the first time in all the years I had grown up that I saw her cry, and I felt very bad at the time too. But what could I do? My boyfriend and I have feelings for each other, and he really treats me very well. I do not mind my boyfriend's mother's attitude toward me very much. After all, the one who will spend a lifetime with me is my boyfriend, not my mother-in-law, so when my mother asked me, I truly could not bear to give up my boyfriend. I also understand my mother. How hard it was for her to raise me to this age, and I am her only relative and hope. Seeing her daughter fawn over others so spinelessly for the sake of a man, how disappointed and sad she must have felt inside.

Things have developed to this point. What should I do? Everyone, please help me think of a way.

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