Is marriage the tomb of love? No, that just means you picked the wrong person

Naodong Shouzuo

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Is marriage the tomb of love?

Is it really true

Or were you just not careful enough

The beautiful Qixi Festival has just passed

Are you still lost in it

In the vast sea of people

Meeting someone you truly like

Is truly rare

That is why love seems so precious

Friends who are immersed in love

Have more or less fantasized about entering the hall of marriage

But is he really right for you now

Can he love you for a lifetime

Before making a decision

There are a few things you must be clear about

Find out why the other person chose you

ask them what they"re looking for

You do not have to directly ask the other person why they want to be with you, but you can ask in this way: Why did you come to a matchmaking event? What kind of partner are you looking for? Through this kind of question, you can know whether the other person is just playing around.

They may be frank and say they are not looking for a marriage partner, and that is fine too. But they may also say that if they meet the right person they are willing to settle down, hinting that you are not wasting your time.

They might be honest and tell you they"re not looking for anything serious — and that"s fine. But they might also say they are willing to settle for the right person, which gives you the indication you"re not wasting your time.

Asking clearly now is always better than finding out later that the other person is dating several people at the same time.

Are they satisfied with their current life?

Are they content with life?

Asking this kind of question at the start of a relationship seems too deep. The earliest stage of love is supposed to be happy, fun and carefree. But Stout believes it is best to know whether the other person is satisfied with their current life.

It sounds quite deep for the start of a relationship, when everything is supposed to be fun and carefree. But Stott said it"s a good idea to find out if someone is happy with where they are in their life.

Being satisfied with your own life shows that your mental state is suitable for meeting others and starting a relationship with someone. Although this saying is cliche, you must first love yourself before you can love others.

If the person you meet is very dissatisfied with their life, this shows they are not ready to welcome another person into their life.

What are their plans for the future?

Do they have any major future plans?

No one wants to fall in love with someone only to find out that person plans to move to the other side of the world and does not know when they will return.

Nobody wants to be in the position of falling for someone, then learning the plan to move half way across the world... indefinitely.

Any major life event, such as working abroad, traveling and so on, may affect your relationship. So knowing the other person's plans early is advantageous.

Any major life-changing events, like moving to work abroad, or travelling, will likely impact your relationship. So it"s handy to know about someone"s plans early on.

How does the other person usually spend weekends?

What is their average Sunday like?

The way someone spends weekends says a lot. Some people sleep in on weekends, while others like to go out and have fun.

The way you spend your Sundays can be quite telling. Some people waste away the hours nursing a hangover, whereas others are more "get up and go" types.

Stout said: "This question seems very casual, but you can learn what kind of person the other person is." She suggests asking this question early. "Usually it is either the proactive type or the lazy type."

How does the other person handle crisis situations?

How do they handle stressful situations?

The way a person handles crisis events can show whether you and this person can get along harmoniously. And there is no right or wrong way to handle a crisis.

The way someone deals with things that go wrong in their life can be a real indicator of how compatible you might be with them.And there isn"t a right or wrong way they might be.

If you encounter some difficulties, you can observe the other person's reaction. Even if it is nothing serious, you can still see how much help the other person can be when facing harder things.

If they ignore or do not care about your troubles, this may mean they are afraid of intimacy, or cannot communicate well.

Are the other person's values similar to yours?

Do they have the same values as you?

Everyone has some principles of their own. For example, some people cannot tolerate drug use, while others are determined not to have children.

Although such major topics are generally not discussed at the beginning of a relationship, you should still find out whether the other person has values completely opposite to yours.

In the long run, deceiving yourself is useless. The other person will not confess at the start. They think that one day they might change, but they will not change, and dragging it out later becomes a problem. Some matters of principle should be raised early.

What are the other person's friends and family like?

What are their friends and family like?

People are not all the same as their family and friends, but overall, you can learn a lot from the people the other person associates with and their family background.

People aren"t always a mirror image of their friends and family, but in general, you can tell a lot about a person from who they choose to hang out with, and where they came from.

If after meeting the other person's friends you think they are the worst people you have ever met, this is a red flag, showing that you may have misjudged them. Maybe the other person has another side you do not know about?

Letting the other person meet your friends can also reveal something. You, who are in the sweet stage of love and wearing rose-colored glasses, can easily overlook the other person's flaws that will annoy you later. But your friends are not so easy to fool.

Although in the face of true love

Everything is not a problem

But choosing the right person for yourself

Is everyone's right

While cherishing love

Do not let love go to your head

Before making a promise

Being careful is still the most important thing!

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