Once a person finds an excuse for themselves, soon they will find a hundred more.
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A few days ago I arranged to have a meal with a friend. I finished my work early and timed my arrival perfectly at the restaurant entrance, but my friend called and said they were stuck in traffic and would probably be a bit late.
Hearing this, I teased: "You left late, so you left late. Why use traffic as an excuse? It's only two stops, don't think I don't know. Hurry up."
My friend played dumb, laughed it off, and hung up.
Excuses are sometimes really quite useful.
Last month, the HR manager at our company fired an employee. I was actually quite surprised by this, because whether it's the management system or the working atmosphere, the company is quite relaxed and rarely takes the initiative to fire someone seriously.
The HR manager explained, "The work assigned to him was always dragged out until the last minute before being submitted,not only delaying the whole team's time, but also always having a pile of reasons and excuses to shirk his own responsibility,which was clearly a problem with his work attitude.
In this meeting interview, because of his one line 'I got up late,' he made a client wait for nearly an hour for nothing, which not only delayed the meeting's progress, but he also spoke carelessly and made promises at random, causing a serious impact on the company's reputation."
Before leaving, the fired employee was still complaining:
"A lot of the work was something I was doing for the first time, I had no experience at all, and no one was guiding me. I just wanted to learn first. Who knew the company would really hold me responsible..."
It's fine to have no experience, and it's not wrong to need someone to give you pointers,but that is not an excuse for you to fail to complete your work and ignore work discipline.The company can grow together with you, but this is only a health supplement, not a miracle cure.
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Carnegie said in How to Win Friends and Influence People,For those who are immature, they can always find some excuse to cover up certain shortcomings or misfortunes of their own.
In life there will always be such a group of people who attribute their poor circumstances and destitution to others, always finding all kinds of excuses for failure.
My colleague Siqing said her ex-boyfriend was exactly this kind of person.
The two came to Shenzhen right after graduation. Siqing quickly found a job she liked, but her boyfriend was not so fortunate and was rejected after interviewing at several companies.
Every time he failed, he would find many reasons, either saying the company discriminated against him for being an outsider, or feeling that others had pulled strings.
Later, not long after starting work, her boyfriend was miserably fired. Even Siqing herself felt her boyfriend was too careless at work, working by fits and starts, not going in when there was a typhoon, asking for leave when it rained heavily.
But her boyfriend did not think so. He felt the leader had something against him and could not recognize his "uncut jade."
Once a person finds a wrong excuse for themselves, soon they will find a hundred more.
At a gathering with classmates, when others had carved out a career through their own efforts, he insisted it was because the other person had a good father and he did not.
When his business startup failed, he insisted it was a problem with the broader social environment, and the failure was not caused by him.
Facing such a boyfriend, Siqing truly could not bear it anymore and finally chose to break up.
The difference between people is actually very simple:
You are lying in bed, he is exercising, so he is healthier than you;
You are completing today's plan, he is planning tomorrow's plan, so he has more of a head start than you;
You are finding excuses, he is solving problems, so he is more successful in his career than you.
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A fan on the backend, @Zhao Yinian, left a message saying:
Her boyfriend clearly no longer loved her, but always made excuses. She herself understood he no longer loved her, but still could not help making excuses for him.
The girl said she had not had any contact with her boyfriend for 3 days already. When she had called him before, he always said he was in the early stage of starting a business and had many things to handle, working hard for their future together.
The girl said helplessly: "Is he really so busy that he doesn't even have time for a phone call? At least saying something on WeChat would be fine, right?"
The girl knew that he was not actually busy; this was just an excuse.
But she also could not bear to break up, and in her mind there were always two little people fighting. One said: "Break up, he just doesn't love you anymore." The other said: "He really is busy, so he forgot," and "He must have something very important to do."
Silly girl, even a president would still have time to date, let alone an ordinary him. And even a president would not be unable to squeeze out time for a phone call.
In the end, "busy" is just an excuse.He is not really unavailable, he is just unavailable to you.
A big reason we do not live well in the present is that many times we always subconsciously make excuses in work, love, and life.
Stop making excuses for your exhaustion and laziness. If this continues, you can only live more and more as a failure.
Finding excuses is easy, finding solutions is hard; shrinking back is easy, forging ahead is hard, but you must believe that success and happiness will always favor those who work hard, not those who only know how to make excuses.
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