My brother-in-law got married and I gave 10,000 yuan as a gift. After the bride appeared, I asked for a divorce.

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My brother-in-law got married and I gave 10,000 yuan as a gift. After the bride appeared, I asked for a divorce.

If it weren't for blood ties, I don't know what other reason my wife would have to time and again take the hard-earned money I bring home to fill the bottomless pit that is my good-for-nothing brother-in-law.

I was born in the 1980s, and our generation was the one under the strictest family planning policy. Basically every household had only one child. My wife is a few years younger than me. Her family had some means back then. My mother-in-law, at the risk of losing her job, gave birth to my brother-in-law, who is a full 16 years younger than my wife. When we were dating, my brother-in-law was still a little kid in the third grade of elementary school! He was the only male heir in the entire family, so you can imagine he had been spoiled into a typical idle rich kid who cared nothing for learning. As an adult, he was good for nothing, barely graduated from a vocational college, and the family found him a civil servant job, which finally settled him down.

But my brother-in-law, once he had a job, didn't know how to cherish it or strive for self-improvement. Because his qualifications weren't sufficient, he had already missed several opportunities to become a permanent staff member. I suggested he continue his studies and earn another degree, but my brother-in-law ignored it completely. After work, his time was spent either sleeping in or playing video games. The role my wife played toward my brother-in-law was almost that of a mother. Her doting on him was no less than that of my father-in-law and mother-in-law. She even bought him a whole set of computer equipment at a high price just so he could play games, and more than once topped up game coins and bought him equipment. Because of these things, we had no shortage of arguments. Afterward, my wife would also soften and promise me there wouldn't be a next time, but every time was never the last time.

Finally, I endured until my brother-in-law was about to get married. I fully believed that after starting a family, my brother-in-law would become a bit more sensible. At the wedding, the bride was very beautiful, and the diamond jewelry she wore all over was clearly a matching set and worth a lot. When she came to our table to toast, my sister-in-law was full of gratitude toward me, and I was quite astonished at where such warmth came from. Through my sister-in-law's repeated thanks, I learned that this set of diamond jewelry was actually a wedding gift my wife had bought and given to her in my name!

It is already no easy feat for us to gain a firm foothold in this big city full of elites. Every penny was earned back by me desperately trading my time and energy. I wanted to use my own efforts to create a slightly better material living environment for our family, but after so many years, because of my wife's behavior, my efforts have not achieved much effect! I am not stingy about my brother-in-law's wedding; for the bride price alone I directly gave 10,000 yuan in cash. As a brother-in-law, facing all the money my wife has spent on my brother-in-law openly and secretly over so many years, I have already stopped pursuing it. It's not that I, as a brother-in-law, am petty, but that I oppose this kind of doting behavior that is irresponsible for my brother-in-law's growth!

What's awkward is that, as a brother-in-law, if I say too much, I will only be labeled as petty, and no one will understand my good intentions. No one can help him for a lifetime. Isn't helping him learn to grow as a person the long-term solution? Sigh, facing all this, I am truly exhausted in body and mind! In my helplessness, the emotions that had piled up for so long finally erupted! After the wedding ended, I asked for a divorce! This way, with me working alone, the heavy burden of supporting several families is really too much for me to carry.