I'd rather get divorced than live with my mother-in-law, so just take it that I look down on you.

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Just take it that I look down on you. I'd rather get divorced than live with your mother.

I don't want to hide at all that there are conflicts between me and my mother-in-law. Sometimes you simply cannot figure out other people's thoughts and intentions. I believe I haven't done anything wrong, and I have always been very respectful to my mother-in-law, yet she has always played the role of a "troublemaker" in my marriage according to her own ideas.

My family is well-off, I am pretty and outgoing, and after graduating from university I worked at a very famous magazine in this city. Because my personal circumstances were very good, there was never any shortage of suitors around me, but my standards were very high, and I never found a suitable boyfriend. My husband's family was poor. His father divorced his mother and left when he was still very young, reportedly because he could not stand his mother's personality, as the two of them were very different in character. This also proves on one hand that there may be some problems with my mother-in-law's personality. Of course, this is only one side of the story, and before getting to know my mother-in-law I could not make a judgment in private.

Since we met, he has been very good to me, and his profession is also quite good. He studied medicine, and after graduating he became a doctor at a large hospital. I felt that, considering everything, he was a man worth dating, so when he showed interest in me, I agreed to be with him without much hesitation. At the time he may still have felt a little inferior, and he looked incredulous, as if he thought he was dreaming. Only after repeatedly confirming with me did he pick me up and spin me around. That kind of heartfelt happiness made me feel very happy. Maybe other girls with conditions similar to mine value a man's wealth more, but what I valued was his thoughtfulness and personal ability.

Seeing that his profession and income were both decent, my parents did not object too much. Seeing that his family circumstances were not good, later the wedding house we married in was also bought by my parents. After marriage, my husband said that because his work was busy, he wanted to bring my mother-in-law over to live with us. He said his mother had suffered a lot for him, and moving here would both let her enjoy some comfort, and when he was busy and unable to take care of the home, my mother-in-law could help share the housework and also keep me company. When I heard this at the time, I agreed. But after my mother-in-law came, I found that she always felt my husband was amazing and very capable, that everything we had now was thanks to him, and she even felt that I had married above my station. Her words were all disdain and dissatisfaction toward me. I had never received this kind of treatment growing up, and after hearing it many times I got angry several times. But when I told my husband, he always said that old people are like children, and that I should just coax her and endure it. He is a doctor, and for fear of affecting his work, surgeries, seeing patients and so on, I did not lower myself to argue with her.

Recently the magazine office has been very busy, and I needed to work overtime. Several times I came back very late, and my mother-in-law was very dissatisfied with me. She thought I usually just liked dressing up, and since my husband was busy with work, my coming back so late every day meant there was a problem. No matter how I explained it to her, she would not listen. Two days ago she even threw my things out and directly pointed at me and told me to get out. I was furious. I took out the property deed and pointed at my name on it, saying this was the house my family bought for me, and told my mother-in-law to go back to her hometown herself, because I really could not live with her anymore.

But after my husband found out, he did not agree. He felt I was disrespectful to my mother-in-law, and he even thought this meant I looked down on him and looked down on his family. But my mother-in-law's self-righteousness and crude insults made it truly impossible for me to accept any more, so at the time I told my husband: "Just take it that I look down on you. I'd rather get divorced than live with your mother." Everyone, do you think I did something wrong?