Why is a smile said to be the best makeup?
By DaDa
In social interactions, a warm smile is a heartfelt yet wordless calling card, an emotional investment that costs nothing, an "opening line" for displaying your affability, and a golden key to successful communication.
Humble and warm, like a gentle spring breeze
In social interactions, a warm smile is a heartfelt yet wordless calling card, an emotional investment that costs nothing, an "opening line" for displaying your affability, and a golden key to successful communication.
At the 2004 CCTV singing competition, besides launching a group of new singing stars, the event also unexpectedly made a star of hostess Dong Qing. Jokingly described by her peers as "blooming in Shanghai, bearing fruit in Beijing," Dong Qing won the trust of the contestants and conquered the vast audience with her poised, gracious manner and her sweet, approachable smile.
Yet Dong Qing once revealed that when she first arrived in Beijing, she always gave people a "sense of distance," which left her quite puzzled. She said: after I got to Beijing, many friends came and asked me, are you from Shanghai? I asked how they could tell. They said Shanghai girls always give people a sense of distance; even when they smile, there is a sense of distance in the smile. After that, Dong Qing paid attention and found it really was so. Gradually she began to learn to change, taking the initiative to chat with people about everyday things, and slowly she developed a smile without that sense of distance.
Dong Qing said: "In daily life, I'm not someone who especially loves to smile. On stage I love to smile, and many people like my smile too, feeling it's very sincere. I willingly give this best and most beautiful version of myself to the audience. Standing on stage, I'm just happy. I really enjoy the feeling of working. Sometimes I'm in a bad mood, but once I'm on stage I forget all about it.
Supermodel Cindy Crawford once said: "When a woman goes out and forgets to put on makeup, the best remedy is to show your smile." A warm smile makes people feel pleased and comfortable. Whether close or distant, as long as you give a bright smile, the world will open its warm embrace to you.
Communication is like breathing, indispensable in every one of our lives. Chatting about everyday things is an effective way for people to exchange feelings and share information. Through such small talk, you shorten the distance between yourself and friends or strangers, and come to understand each other more deeply.
Dong Qing often chats about everyday things with the contestants, jokes with the judges, and interacts with the audience. When she's happy she giggles, and when she's moved her eyes fill with tears.
Dong Qing's hosting is rich and varied, and she has mastered it to perfection. Her hosting style is marked by plain language and deep feeling combined with reason. She can always use simple words to communicate warmly with contestants at zero distance; with her wit and humor, she either livens up the atmosphere on site or makes a tearful contestant laugh through her tears.
Gentleness is what moves people most
Turgenev said: "If there could be a woman somewhere who cared about me and waited for me to come home to eat, I would give up the talent I possess and all my writings." An innate gentleness and delicacy is the most invincible "weapon" that heaven has given women for getting along with others.
In one competition, a contestant from an ethnic minority walked onto the CCTV stage for the first time, but her results were not ideal. Dong Qing gently said to her, as tears streamed down her face: "May I give you a hug?" When the little girl and Dong Qing, this big sister, hugged tightly together, she laughed through her tears. This scene moved the audience on site, and people responded with warm applause.
Sometimes, the care that truly warms a heart does not depend on asking after someone's every need each day; as long as you are understanding, compassionate, warm and attentive, approachable, and mindful of details, it is enough to give the other person the care they most need at an unguarded moment. Many people have noticed that Dong Qing will tell small stories on stage about what lies behind the contestants' participation in the competition. This kind of warm introduction not only makes the contestants feel cared for, but also lets the audience understand more fully a side of the contestants that is otherwise unknown.
And at such times, Dong Qing is the best listener, listening to the contestants' joys and sorrows and uncovering their most moving moments. It is precisely because she listens carefully off stage that Dong Qing on stage, microphone in hand, is so calm and composed.
Listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone. When talking with others, you should pay attention to listening to what they say; this is a kind of "wordless praise and compliment."
Being good at listening is a means of interpersonal communication. It seems like a static state, but in fact it contains a wealth of information. Used well, its meaning is inexhaustible, achieving an effect where "silence speaks louder than words."
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