One generation does not govern another, and a grandson does not look after his grandmother - there is real flavor in this old saying.

"One generation does not govern another, and a grandson does not look after his grandmother." When I saw this sentence, the first thing that popped into my head was that saying, "One generation does not meddle in the affairs of two generations." In fact, as an old rural saying, the fact that it has been passed down shows that it has a certain reason. Here Xiaonong will share his own views.

What does this saying mean?

"One generation does not govern another, and a grandson does not look after his grandmother." On the surface, it means that each generation should manage the affairs of its own generation well, and should not overstep into one another's business. A grandson does not look after his grandmother means that the grandmother should be cared for by the father's generation. Looking at it carefully, this saying still has a certain reason.

Why "one generation does not govern another"?

First let us look at the first half of the sentence. The first half should be addressed to the elderly, meaning that they should not interfere too much in their children's affairs. That is how the saying goes, but how many people can truly do it?

On one hand, the elderly have spent a lifetime worrying about things, and they will always more or less express some of their own views on family issues. But young people? They always feel that they themselves are the ones who are most correct, and in many cases they will not really listen to the elderly's instructions. This easily breeds family conflicts. Especially conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you also meet a domineering mother-in-law and a husband who is a mama's boy, then the days ahead may really become impossible to get through.

There is also the fact that the elderly sometimes refuse to admit they are old, and always like to issue orders. But the young people will not accept it, yet they cannot express it, and this creates conflict. The most common case is in the matter of educating the grandchildren, where the grandparents' ideas often differ from those of the child's parents.

In fact, the best state is for the older generation to let go and let the children handle things themselves. If they do not handle things well, they can ask their parents for advice, but there should not be too much interference in their lives. Only in this way can they live better. In fact, letting go is also love.

What does "a grandson does not look after his grandmother" mean?

Then let us look at the second half of the sentence, "a grandson does not look after his grandmother." Personally, I feel that this sentence is somewhat unreasonable today. It is said that people of different generations are the closest, and the ones who loved us most when we were young were our grandparents. However, if this sentence is placed in some rather special circumstances, it can also be explained. For example, if the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law do not get along, such a family is very likely to have a distant relationship between grandson and grandmother. This is also how the saying "a grandson does not look after his grandmother" came about.

But now in rural areas many children are raised single-handedly by their grandparents, and naturally they are very close to their grandparents. When the children grow up, they will naturally honor their grandparents. Moreover, the situation of a grandson not looking after his grandmother also does not conform to our country's tradition of filial piety.

The above comes from the original work of Science Xingnong.