What happened to the girls who married without asking for a house, a car, or a bride price?

I came across a topic:Girls who don't want a house, a car, or a bride price - would you dare to marry them?

I asked the friends around me, and many unmarried guys nodded:

"Sure, why not?"

"Sure, but where would you even find a girl like that?"

But a friend who has been married for over ten years said thoughtfully:

"If she's so well-off that she never worries about food or clothing, does she really want nothing in return? If she's just giving selflessly, then I'm afraid I wouldn't be worthy of a girl like that."

I quite like his answer.A marriage with a price tag looks vulgar, but true love is when I can never bear to let you suffer.

A friend told me that at the public institution where she works, there's a temporary worker - a woman everyone calls Sister.

She earns less than 2,000 yuan, yet drives a car worth nearly a million to and from work. When colleagues heard that Sister's husband was in business, they all assumed she had married a rich man.

When it occasionally came up in conversation, Sister said: "What rich man? When we got married, he didn't even own a decent shirt."

A colleague asked: "Then how did you know he was a rising star?" Sister said with a smile:

"Me, I just love eating sugarcane. Every winter he'd peel it and bring it to me, and the ones he picked were especially sweet. But where do you find sugarcane in summer? So he'd go out to the fields and break off corn stalks for me to eat, and they were genuinely sweet too.Back then I thought, this man is pretty clever, he treats me well, and he's reliable, so I married him."

She wanted neither fame nor fortune - she just wanted someone who was "good to her." And he truly didn't betray her trust, building his current wealth from nothing, all by his own hands.

Those girls who don't want a house, a car, or a bride price usually want something far more precious than all of those things. It's called sincerity.

There's no shortage of girls like this in life - they can strap on a sword and charge into battle, yet they're also willing to step back and handle the daily chores of oil, salt, firewood, and rice.

Independence can indeed be a woman's confidence, but a man who needs you to be "especially independent" often just doesn't love you that much.

A while ago, a reader complained to me that she had blocked her blind date.

The last straw that led her to block him was a news story at the time - "10 brides in Henan marry with zero bride price, and declare in public: I'm marrying love."

The guy shared it on his Moments with the caption: "A woman who doesn't want a single cent for marriage is true love."

She commented on his post: "So wanting material things means it's not true love?"

The guy replied quickly: "It's not like selling a daughter. I most despise those materialistic girls who want a house and a car. Can't they earn money themselves?"

She felt uncomfortable reading it and couldn't think of how to reply, so she blocked him.

I agree that "if love between both sides can last for aye, why need they stay together night and day" - but what I fear most is a man who is stingy with material things while also belittling love.

A man worth marrying won't blame his "poverty" on your "materialism." Instead, he'll think, "Whatever other girls have, my wife should have too."

Some say that having money means having a sense of security. I think that's a rather heartbreaking choice. Because they have nothing to rely on, they have to make up for it with material things - but can they really be happy that way?

I once read a story about a couple. The man's circumstances were very good, and once they were together, the girl was labeled as "marrying up."

The guy and his family kept saying "just be content" over and over, and the girl's heart gradually grew cold. When they broke up, she said solemnly:

"Others think I married up, and I don't care what they say. But you use material things to make me feel eternally grateful to you, and I can't do that.I won't accept the things you give me - not because I'm being aloof. It's because I feel these things are expensive in price but cheap in sincerity."

Women are naturally attentive and sensitive. Their need for love is absolutely not something money can make up for:

More than cars and houses, they want every message they send to be answered promptly;

Every time they come home late or go to bed late, they want someone to look after them and keep them company;

Every promise made to them to be taken to heart and striven for, not always saying "I'll hold up the sky if it falls," but truly not dodging when trouble comes.

No matter how big the house, you need to go home with her. No matter how luxurious the car, you need to save her the exclusive passenger seat.

You think she's smiling because she sees money, but her eyes are actually full of you.

Love can't be measured by money, but loving someone means not being stingy about talking about money.

She wants a big house, and even more she wants a home. But most of all, she wants you to love her.

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