My fiancé treated my parents to a meal, and after he paid the bill, I felt this wedding needn't happen

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My fiancé treated my parents to a meal, and after he paid the bill, I felt this wedding needn't happen

You can marry a man not for his money, but the way this man treats his partner and his partner's family also reflects, to a certain extent, the place you hold in his heart. Not long ago, my boyfriend treated me and my parents to a meal. It was originally meant to strengthen the bond between both sides, but after he paid the bill, I felt this wedding needn't happen.

Actually, speaking of my boyfriend, his family background is quite good, but I don't know whether it's due to his family upbringing, he is frugal and stingy, and during our relationship we always went Dutch. At the time I thought, I'm not after his family's money, and back then I didn't know whether the two of us would end up together. I figured it was good not to have financial entanglements with each other, keeping the feelings pure and the purpose simple, which would actually help our relationship develop.

I don't know whether it was because of this attitude of mine that he and his family were very satisfied, so later they agreed to let us continue developing the relationship. My boyfriend even said I was different from most women he had dealt with before, not snobbish and not greedy for money, and this was something he greatly appreciated. Up to now we have been dating for a year and a half, our relationship is stable, and we've reached the age for it, so we very naturally talked about marriage. He vaguely hinted at wanting to do a prenuptial property notarization, and I didn't object much. Although our family isn't as rich as his, we're not poor either, and my own job and income are quite good, so I could live well on my own.

Since I didn't have much of a problem with this, we finally reached the stage of discussing marriage. A few days ago my boyfriend treated me and my parents to a meal, as a kind of symbolic ceremony. I chose the hotel, because seeing that my parents were going to attend, and the meaning of this meal was different from usual, I deliberately chose a five-star hotel, originally just to show respect for my parents and to make it a bit more formal. When it came time to pay the bill, I very naturally handed him the check. On an occasion like this, shouldn't a son-in-law pay the bill on his own initiative? But unexpectedly, not only did he complain it was expensive, when he got home he even sent me a message asking to go Dutch, telling me to give him half the money. When I saw that message, the blood rushed to my head in anger, but my heart sank to the bottom, and I felt cold all over.

I used to think my fiancé's stinginess was just because he was raised not to be extravagant or wasteful, but from his attitude toward my parents this time, I realized that in his heart, no one is more important than money. Or perhaps it means that neither I nor my parents are as important as money in his heart. This says a lot. Although I don't want to admit it, I also realize that he may not value me at all, otherwise it's hard to explain the things I've encountered. I think this wedding of mine needn't happen. What does everyone think?