My sister-in-law came to my house and lost money; after I asked my husband to search her luggage, my marriage ended.

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My sister-in-law came to my house and lost money; when I told my husband I wanted to look through her luggage, my marriage ended.

My marriage ended not long ago, and when it comes to the specific reason, it was because of prejudice, misunderstandings, and some specific conflicts triggered by trivial family matters. I naturally have my faults too, but I do not think all the fault was caused by my looking down on my in-laws and my sister-in-law. Everyone might as well judge for me and see who is right and who is wrong in all this, okay?

My name is Xia Muyan, and I am 25 years old this year. My maiden family is very wealthy, which gave me a bit of a spoiled young lady temper, though I consider myself quite easy to get along with, without any bad intentions, very simple, and not materialistic. This can be seen from my view of marriage. My husband Zheng Qiuyang's family background is not very good, but he is extremely considerate and attentive to me. We met two years ago while traveling and hit it off very well, so in the end I was with him despite my family's opposition.

At the time, although my parents were very angry and worried, in order to make me feel happy and also afraid I would suffer after marrying, they still prepared a marital home for me in the end, fully paid off, with all kinds of furniture complete and in very good condition. However, to ensure my quality of life, before the marriage my parents also agreed with his family that after marriage they would let us as a young couple live in our own two-person world, and his family members would not be allowed to move in and live with us. At the time I still thought they were worrying over nothing. I am fond of lively environments by nature, and I thought that since the house was large anyway, even if his parents came over as guests from time to time, it would not get in the way of anything. But my parents said I was young and immature, and that the more family members there are, the more complicated the relationships become, and if not handled well it could even affect the relationship between us as husband and wife.

In the first year after marriage, we lived quite happily, but around March this year, my sister-in-law came to our place to look for work. At the time, because she was unfamiliar with the place and it was not good for a girl to rent a place outside alone, she temporarily stayed with us. At first I did not think much of it, but later I discovered her living habits were terrible. The house was often a mess, and it was one thing that she never tidied up, but she also did not care about presentation at all and wore cheap market-stall clothes, which was completely beneath my standards. She needed to dress up for job applications and needed clothes for interviews, so from cosmetics, clothes, bags to shoes, she borrowed everything from me. After this happened too many times, I complained to my husband, but he always told me to be tolerant, saying his younger sister was not an outsider, she was having difficulties, and as the elder sister-in-law I should just be tolerant.

Recently, I accidentally discovered that 10,000 yuan I had placed in the bedroom was missing. I searched everywhere and could not find it. There were only three people in the house. Everyone, tell me, if I do not suspect my sister-in-law, who else can I suspect? Usually those other matters were one thing, but stealing money is not something within my range of tolerance. So I wanted to look through her suitcase, but my sister-in-law refused as if she had suffered a huge humiliation. She even said that if I dared to search it, she would call the police. In the end, when my husband came back and learned about it, he was very angry and said I was talking nonsense without investigating. Those money had been taken by him and given to his mother.

But I said these were not just one or two hundred yuan; if he took it, he should have at least told me first, right? He instead said, why could he not take his own family's money, and was he still not the man of the house? Because of this we quarreled endlessly. My sister-in-law also got angry, pulled her luggage, and left my home without looking back to return to her own parents' home. Perhaps after going back she exaggerated and twisted things when complaining to my parents-in-law, and then my mother-in-law called and scolded my husband harshly, saying he could not even manage his own wife and had let his younger sister suffer such a great grievance. After my husband put down the phone, he had another big fight with me, and in a fit of anger we divorced.

Everyone, tell me, is it really true, as his whole family says, that this was all just my prejudice and arrogance, and that they were not even slightly at fault?