Men have five types of women not to marry, and women have five types of men not to marry; young people should keep their eyes wide open when choosing a partner
This saying talks about the mate-selection views of the older generation, and it actually still has some reference value for young people's marriage choices today. However, some of these views may be somewhat inappropriate. Here, Xiaonong will interpret the meaning of this saying together with everyone.
Five types of women not to marry
In ancient times, it referred to these five types of women: the eldest daughter of a woman who died, a family with a serious hereditary disease, a family with a criminal, a woman from a disorderly family, and a woman from a rebellious family.
1. A woman from a disorderly family
It refers to a woman whose conduct is not modest. A woman whose conduct is not modest naturally cannot be taken home as a wife. The most shameful thing for a man is to be cuckolded, so if you marry a woman whose conduct is not modest as your wife, you will truly worry at every moment that your wife will have an affair.
2. The eldest daughter of a woman who died
The eldest daughter of a woman who died actually refers to a woman without upbringing, because having lost her mother since childhood, she would have deficiencies in education. However, personally, I think this idea is still somewhat extreme. Of course, a woman without upbringing naturally cannot be easily married, because many people say that a child's qualities reveal the cultivation of the parents. For the sake of the next generation, one still needs to be cautious.
3. A family with a serious hereditary disease
It refers to the idea that a woman with a malignant disease cannot be married, since a wife is, after all, going to walk the whole journey of life with you. It is said that young couples are companions in old age, and the greatest fear is losing one's spouse in middle age. So if the other person has a serious illness, you still need to be cautious; if you put true love above all, then of course that is also understandable.
4. A family with a criminal
It refers to a girl whose family has a criminal. This statement is actually biased. We cannot put labels on everyone. The fact that someone in the family has committed crimes does not mean the children have problems. It still needs to be viewed person by person.
5. A woman from a rebellious family
A woman from a rebellious family refers to a girl who does not obey the teachings of her elders; in ancient times, that meant an unfilial woman. If a woman cannot even show filial piety to her own parents, then would you still dare to expect her to treat your parents well? So whether she is filial or not is still something that needs to be considered clearly.
Five types of men not to marry
1. Do not marry an unfilial man
Of all virtues, filial piety comes first. If a man is not filial to his parents, then it can be said that this man's character is not very good. Living with such a man can only bring pain, because he will not feel tender concern for you.
2. Do not marry a man without great ambitions
When choosing a partner, you cannot look at his appearance and money; what you should look at is his talent and aspirations. Confucius once said, "Honor virtue and disregard beauty," which means that in choosing a spouse, one should look at his qualities and ambitions.
3. A promiscuous person cannot be married
Now a saying circulates online: "What I want is a warm man who warms only me, not a central air conditioner." Marriage is not about you changing a person, but about adapting to each other and running each other in. So for a promiscuous man, do not expect that he will change forever because of your appearance. If you marry such a person, it will be hard to avoid him fooling around with others in the future.
4. Do not marry a petty and selfish person
A man should have a broad mind, so that after marriage he will not quibble with a woman. Because women are naturally more sensitive by temperament and easily throw small tantrums, if the husband is even more petty than she is, then would they not be in a cold war every day? Moreover, such a man finds it hard to achieve great things, so it is not recommended to marry this kind of person.
5. Do not marry a gambler
A person who likes gambling truly cannot be married. A gambler can do anything; even if he had vast wealth before marriage, it would inevitably be squandered away, and it could even cause the tragedy of a family being broken and people lost. Moreover, making a gambler quit gambling should be as difficult as making an addict give up drugs.