What does it mean to not help with three kinds of favors, not eat three kinds of meals, and not spend three kinds of money?
The old saying "do not help with three kinds of favors, do not eat three kinds of meals, do not spend three kinds of money" still holds a certain amount of truth, though sometimes we still need to analyze specific problems on a case-by-case basis. Since childhood, teachers have taught us to be happy to help others and to help those in difficulty, but sometimes your enthusiasm also needs to see the situation clearly before helping, otherwise you may end up making things busier the more you help, or helping in a way that backfires. Let us look at which three favors should not be helped with. Below, Science Xingnong will explore this old rural saying together with everyone.
Do not help with three kinds of favors
1. Emotional problems
Everyone goes through emotional problems, especially the emotions between husband and wife and between couples. This really is a very troublesome matter. Many warm-hearted women like to gather together to discuss emotional problems, and young girls are the same. But many arguments between husband and wife are mostly over trivial little things. If you go to help, then whether or not you are in the right, one of the two parties will always end up angry at you. After all, that is their private business; even an upright official finds it hard to judge family matters, let alone us. The saying that you should not help with matters of feelings makes a lot of sense.
2. Borrowing money
Borrowing money has always been a headache for many people. Sometimes you lend it out with good intentions, but when it comes time to repay, there is still no word. Earning money is not easy for anyone, so with the favor of lending money, it is best to distinguish the situation clearly and consider whether to lend or not. If the other person usually has no steadiness at all and wants to borrow money to buy a car or squander it, then do not even think about lending it to him. If the other person is borrowing money to go to school, then you should lend it, because the child has the heart to seek knowledge, and such a child will go far; lending to him does not require worrying that he will not repay.
3. Favors of showing off strength
Showing off strength mostly happens to hot-blooded young people. A few young people disagree over a word and are about to come to blows. At this time, in order to boost their own momentum, everyone always calls a few of their friends to help. In this kind of situation, young people mostly go because of face and to show off. But what is the consequence after going? Everyone surely knows, so I will not say more here.
Do not eat three kinds of meals
1. Free meals
Do not eat free meals. For those who live off their parents, I have always thought this is quite something. At the very least, their skin is thick enough. As for these people who eat free meals, they would rather be laughed at than work themselves; it really leaves me unable to complain. Middle school textbooks once said, "A gentleman does not accept food offered in humiliation." So a free meal is something you cannot eat.
2. Soft meals
Eating a soft meal specifically refers to men who rely on women to support them. A real man should harbor great ambitions and stand tall between heaven and earth. To rely on a woman earning money to support oneself, I personally feel there is no glory in it at all. Such a man can only be called very useless.
3. Leftovers
What flavor is there in eating bones someone else has already gnawed on? So young people should still have their own ideas and not blindly follow behind others and wander around.
Do not spend three kinds of money
1. Ill-gotten wealth
A gentleman loves wealth but obtains it in a proper way. Personally, I think ill-gotten wealth is hard to spend with a peaceful heart. After all, earning money is not easy for anyone, and if the channel by which the money comes is not legitimate, you still need to think twice.
2. Other people's money
What belongs to others is, after all, not your own. Spending your own money is the most comfortable. Even spending your parents' money is not as comfortable as spending your own.
3. Tomorrow's money
Nowadays it is popular to use various kinds of loan consumption, but young people must consume moderately, consider the limits of their own ability, and not overspend, so as not to create unnecessary financial burdens for themselves.